So recently I have been thinking a lot about my relationships with certain people.... Do you ever see someone that you've never or maybe only barely met or talked to before but out of no where your driven to get to know them?

Its not a feeling I get often but in rare situations I feel like I'm supposed to get to know people for a reason, and sometimes in the long run i understand that reason, but I don't know if that's me wanting to meet the people because of natural feelings or if it's because I'm supposed to. In one situation a year or so ago i developed an attraction for a friend after just barely meeting them all because I felt that i was supposed to get to know them. But the thing is, they're a non-Christian, and God tells us in the bible not to be yoked with unbelievers. So i prayed wondering first, why i was driven towards them without even knowing them and secondly why I couldn't stop being attracted to them especially because they are a non-Christian. But here I am a year later and I still have no idea lol.

I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever felt like this or similar to it before and what you think? lol and yes I realize it's a little scatter-brained but I re-wrote this like 3 times and have no idea how else to word it

Can't say I've felt that but I'm a loner type anyway.

Bsax wrote:

But the thing is, they're a non-Christian, and God tells us in the bible not to be yoked with unbelievers.

IIRC, this refers to the marriage covenant. If we couldn't associate with non-Christians, how can we share the gospel? The best example of being a Christian is loving people as God sees them (and Christ did/does). Make a friend - be a friend - share Jesus with your friend. What I believe the Bible does warn against is keeping your OWN armor on so THEY don't negatively influence YOU. I'm too tired to look up verses now, but there are several you can find. If you stick to God's values, you can buddy up with anyone. Some of the strongest Christian men I know are rapists and murderers.

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"If you are not concerned about your neighbor's salvation,
you should be concerned about your own."

If we avoid contact with non christians how can they know the good news about God?
Show your non christian friends who you are and you might saw a little seed that goes growing when God waters it.
You never know why God let you meet this people Beth.

Thanks guys, I appreciate the replies!

I know though that it's okay to be friend with non-Christians for sure. In fact, most of my friends are non-Christians. What i mean though is in the case of this one guy is that I felt drawn to him for no reason at all without having known him at all and developed a friendship but now I'm actually attracted to him, like a crush, sort of. And that's what I don't understand and pray about why God would draw me to such and awesome person only for me to end up with all these really confusing feelings that are difficult to deal with when he is a non-Christian. I have prayed to ask God to help me put aside these feelings and lust for him so that we can just be good friends but it's not happening at all.

Hopefully that makes what I was trying to say a bit more clear?

This is just my opinion, but if you're praying about it and it's not seeming to resolve the issue, flee temptation is also quite clear in Scripture. It appears the flesh is greater than the Spirit at this point in this case. That's not to say you can never see this person again, but to be smart about limiting contact with him and then only in public settings. It's odd to hear a female use the term lust but I know everyone can have it and I know it's one of Satan's best tools. Best to nip it in the bud early than play with fire.

I'm curious also how you know it is God that has drawn you to this person? That is certainly possible if he isn't saved (you can share), but I'd guess not likely given the feelings you're having.

Thanks for your thoughts Topshot, I really appreciate it and will for sure be thinking some of this through a little more carefully.

topshot rhit wrote:

I'm curious also how you know it is God that has drawn you to this person? That is certainly possible if he isn't saved (you can share), but I'd guess not likely given the feelings you're having.

I guess that's the thing, really I don't know that it's God. That's why I originally asked if anyone else had experienced something similar before. But here's what I do know, until you get to know me, in person I'm generally a naturally shy person, so I'm not usually the one to make the introduction but in this case I did, and it was weird because I just knew they were a non Christian (if that makes any sense or even seems possible?) and then stranger yet was I just felt something tugging at me to start a conversation (not normal for me), only to discover I had a lot in common with him.

So lol hence my concern, was it hormones all along ( ) or something more all along...

No offense but I'll go with hormones. Satan knows our weak spots and will make them seem oh so attractive. I met my first wife under very unusual and specific circumstances and I figured it was so odd that it must have been divine intervention even though I wasn't a Christian at the time. Needless to say it was a huge mistake (and I knew it). However, I would not change it because I learned a great deal about myself from it and would not be who I am today. I met my current wife a few weeks after we separated as it turns out. My first failure has definitely helped me make this one work. TMI perhaps, but I'd definitely keep on alert in your case.

Great advice Topshot, and kudos to you Beth for being so honest. Keep praying girl.

Beth, when you ask God for wisdom, He always will answer you.

Your right Yvonne

and thanks guys, I take all of this to heart and will for sure keep praying!

When I was 17, I started a relationship with a non Christian girl on the basis that I would be the strong one. I planned on being the dominant influence over us so as to lead her to Christ. I was a soldier and was pretty sure of myself at the time. But falling in love made me reckless, and I began to shed my armor piece by piece. The compromises I made led her and I to near disaster.

All the advice I've seen here is good. Just make sure that your feelings for this person don't compromise your walk with Christ.

At that age, hormones do the thinking, not our minds (even for females).It would take an exceptional person and Christian to be successful at 17 or even 21.

I'm not so sure it takes an exceptional person to find a life mate at an early age. I was only 18 when I got married, and it's been 21 years. When we started dating, I was an atheist and my wife a Christian. I know I dragged her down, but through that relationship, God pulled me up. It may not be the best idea to do the "evangelism dating", but there are some success stories out there.

Beth, seek God's council. If He okays this relationship you've spoken about, then go for it. If He's strongly signaling that you should run, then get those running shoes ready. Just the fact that you've opened up to us here about this shows that you are putting a lot of though into this and not just running on teenage hormones.

While I'm glad it worked out for you and Holly, I'd say that missionary dating is a poor idea in general. Certainly I would not want my children doing it.