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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 12:42 pm

As for the autism comments, I think that's probably spot on.  If the person does have autism then they won't realise what they're doing, and will only think of things from their angle.

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 12:44 pm

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If you can't think of many folk to get rid of you can always get rid of one of mine, as I'm your friend twice!

Double the fun ! Laughing

I wouldn't think of nixing anyone in my life who mean so much to me and that I can have a normal conversation with.
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 12:44 pm

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 1:39 pm

Jim,

Antoher option is to deactivate your account altogether. I know nowadays when you talk about not having a Fakebook account, people look at you funny - I'm fasting it for a year so I've gotten the look.

But if you aren't that attached to it and communicate with folks other ways, after a month you won't even miss it. I used it a lot and I don't miss it at all.
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 2:18 pm

Ish, I like that idea. And I've done it in the past for a short time. However, I'm not a very social person (believe it or not)(See thread: Why I'm An Introvert). I don't have any close buddies locally. I don't do anything or go anywhere with anyone but my wife. The church that meets at my house only has 6 people right now and most of them are in their 60s, so outside of a love and fellowship in the Lord, there's not much in common.

So I said all that to say, CHM and FB are my only avenues of social activity. I love posting random music things and funny memes at FB and playing games and serious convos here at CHM.
Besides, if I didn't have FB, I'd pretty much never hear from my kids Laughing

I've thought about closing my account and opening one in a vague name. But I hear FB won't let you do that anymore. Besides, people eventually figure out who you are by your posts and friend list.

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 2:52 pm

Fair enough. If you don't want to shut the guy out entirely, just set very clear boundaries. It's tough but I think it's helpful.

Things like:
1. no messages between (pick your time) 10 PM and 8 AM
2. if I don't respond don't continue trying to reach me
3. if I've said no (to anything, not just calling or meeting) then the answer is no and if it changes I'll let you know.
4. To be my friend, you have to be interested in things about me as well. Friendship is a two way street.

I've supervised 2 people with Asperger's and worked with many more, and if this guy does have it, this will help him tremendously as it sets the relationship in very concrete terms. He'll know when he hits the limit and (hopefully) stop. If not, then you'll know he just doesn't have any social skills...
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 3:07 pm

Guilty/Forgiven wrote:

Ugh, I feel like he's Lenny and I'm George.

You remember what George had to do to rid himself of Lenny.  Don't let it go that far.

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Fri Apr 14, 2017 5:40 pm

Staybrite wrote:
Guilty/Forgiven wrote:

Ugh, I feel like he's Lenny and I'm George.

You remember what George had to do to rid himself of Lenny.  Don't let it go that far.

affraidlol!  Whoops ! Forgot that part of it Laughing


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3. if I've said no (to anything, not just calling or meeting) then the answer is no and if it changes I'll let you know.

I like all of those, but #3 is the one I'd start with if I can't just fade him off my FB page
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Sun Apr 16, 2017 12:33 am

I've logged out of FB.
I'm going to take a few days off of it, and may delete my current account and later re-open it under my old account name. I like to do a purge every few years anyways, and this is just a good excuse.

I like the idea of ground rules for this guy, but in reality, he doesn't take no for an answer nor would he "understand" these rules anymore than he's understood things I've asked him not to do in the past.
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 3:24 pm

'Sup Jim? Twisted Evil
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 3:31 pm

'Sup Jim?
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 4:39 pm

'Sup Jim?
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 4:52 pm

Yo, Jim! 'Sup?

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 6:49 pm

Hey Jim, 'Sup?

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 11:12 pm

'Sup Jim?  Long time no talk?  You still awake?
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Tue Apr 18, 2017 11:34 pm

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Wed Apr 19, 2017 6:20 am

Psst...Jim....you are aiming the gun the wrong way.  It points at your detractors.  lol!


My offer still stands.  Give me your log in info and I will go in and block him.  Then, you change your password and can honestly say that you didn't do it.  Boom! Done!  I'd even give you my log in info so you know you could trust me.  We'd hold each other accountable.

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Wed Apr 19, 2017 7:40 am

Psstttt Jim, I still follow you even you have a new account. Razz
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Wed Apr 19, 2017 8:36 am

'Sup Jim? Getting concerned cuz I haven't heard from you in a while buddy.

Speaking of which, can silent and I come down for a visit?
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Wed Apr 19, 2017 10:38 am

rockerVu2 wrote:
Psstttt Jim, I still follow you even you have a new account. Razz

lol!

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Wed Apr 19, 2017 1:49 pm

Ya know, this is why I love you guys and gal here.... You're all nuts and can give me a ribbing that I absolutely love - and LOL !

And Alldat, dude I'd trust you with my SS# and debit card with pin. It's not that. I just think either way it'll look like I did it. And he has a way of getting a message to me asking to be re-friended.

I'm gonna block him soon.
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Wed Apr 19, 2017 4:27 pm

'Sup Jim?
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Thu Apr 20, 2017 7:33 am

Jim .... Jimmie, where are you know?
Are you playing hide and seek?
Or have you moved the the desert?

Razz
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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Thu Apr 20, 2017 12:10 pm

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PostSubject: Re: Help I have a stalker !   Thu Apr 27, 2017 11:35 am

Hey, it could be worse Very Happy
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